To say that Trauma changes people is to say that water is wet!
Recovering from Complex trauma is a long and very personal road. The greatest challenge on that road is trust.
If you were abused as a child, you have every possible reason to have ‘trust issues.’ If you experienced trauma in a war, your ability to reintegrate with your family and friends when you come home can also make it hard to feel connected, safe, and like you belong.
Humans are hard-wired for connection, communication and collaboration. Your ability to notice subtle changes in another person’s body language, facial expressions, and tone of voice are instincts. It is estimated that 60percent of any conversation happens underneath of your conscious mind through Neuroception.
Neuroception is a description of the subtle information that is exchanged between all animals through boidy language, facial expression and tone of voice. It could be a mugger or a 2-month-old puppy. There is a clearly a semi-conscious form of shared percetions and intentions in most animals.
On an instinctual and neurological level, humans develop trust and connection through your Polyvagal System. This part of your CNS determines whether you will trigger a Fight, Flight, or Freeze response to a perceived threat. If the situation is unclear but has the potential for success, your Polyvagal CNS will move towards a Tend and Befriend response. If you need the others help but they are unpredictable and dangerous, your instincts will settle for a Cringe or Cower response.
Your instinctual and visceral animal body, your sensual and somatic body has a limit for how long you can live under the oppression of another. At a certain point you will Fight back or you will shut down and stop beleiving you deserve the right to negotiate.
If you have spent many years with a Polyvagal CNS, or instinctual mistrust of others, or a general shut-down of interest, Breathwork is your best ally to bring your Neuroplasticity efforts right where you need them.
In your Solar Plexus