The second puberty usually happens between 28 and 32 years of age. It can come much sooner or much later. It is interesting to me that Western Astrology includes a transformative and challenging time called “Saturn Return” at the age of 28. It is the time of becoming an adult. From a traditional and historical perspective, this rite of passage would celebrate your consistent ability to help take care of the people, especially your Elders and your children. At this time you would be given a new name and a mentor who carries an appropriate and special skill would adopt you as a relative and teach you what they knew.
There is a very potent and personal aspect of this puberty that is especially challenging in the modern world. Traditionally, this rite of passage is about coming into your autonomy. This can only happen when you stop looking outside of yourself to know who you are. Today, as young people (15 – 30) our social lives and social ‘scenes’ help define us. In modern life, you may choose to be a party animal, an athlete, an intellectual person, a very spiritual/religious person or any other possibility or blend of possibilities. Who we spend time with, the clothes we wear, the music we listen to and the kind of conversations we have that give us a sense of where we fit into our particular society. Historically it was the same – it just looked a lot different.
At some point though, each of us will find ourselves spending a lot of time with people who got to their second puberty in very different ways. Think of all the comedy style movies about two people with very different backgrounds going from mutual disdain to respect, friendship and mutual reliance. At some point, each of us must go through the growing pains of trusting ourselves to move into life and to move through life from the inside out more than the outside in. This becomes the experience of self-awareness, self-respect, and self-trust that we call autonomy.